3 years ago this week, I was in the throws of devastation due to the discovery of my husband's affair.  
 
Easter, a time of celebration and worship of our Risen Savior Jesus, was approaching and I was faced with spending it without my husband. 
 
Grief, sadness, anguish, pain, and loss filled my soul.
 
I sat with my journal and began to write. 
 
Today's episode is the poem that came during that time. As I reflected on the betrayal, pain, loss, and anguish I was feeling,  I also reflected on what Jesus also endured through betrayal, pain, loss, and the anguish of the cross. 
 
The poem brings us to the realization that Jesus understands our pain. He understands us more than anyone.  He rose from the ashes of betrayal and loss and so will you.
 
I pray this blesses you Beautiful,
XO Lisa
 
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Today marks the 3️⃣ year anniversary of D-Day. (April 3rd, 2023)
And while most of these anniversary dates can be very devastating, this one no longer governs me.
As a matter of fact, what Satan meant to bring me harm actually empowered me to do what I do today - helping Christian women find hope and healing from the devastation of their husband’s affair. And it’s an honor.
Many women equate D-Day or Discovery Day - the day you discovered your husband's affair - to an extremely traumatic event. It's the day your world came crashing down, the day your life shattered into a million pieces, the day time seemed to just stand still.
This makes the anniversary of that day seem to daunting, one you dread terribly. 
I want to help change that for you today.
You can change how you approach the anniversary of D-Day.  In today's episode, I'll share with you 3 tips I used to change my perspective about D-Day anniversaries. And I even have a bonus for you as well.
I pray this gives you a new way to approach these dates and offers you hope and healing along the way.
Blessings Beautiful!
XO ~Lisa
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Triggers from betrayal trauma can be debilitating, overwhelming, frightening, and painful. 
How can you recognize if you are having a trigger?
How can you heal through a trigger?
Can you ever get control over triggers after discovering your husband's affair?
In today's episode, you will learn how to recognize the feeling of a trigger, how to identify the symptoms, and how to control them so they don't control you.
You will even get a bonus 'TOOL Kit' to have on the go just in case you are triggered while out.
If you haven't listened to Part 1, go below for the link. 
I pray today blesses you Beautiful!
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Being triggered after being betrayed by your husband means that something has caused a strong emotional response or reaction that reminds you of his betrayal or it brings up painful memories associated with it. Triggers can be anything from a certain word, phrase, smell, a particular place, a specific sound, or even a song that reminds you of his affair.
I understand what it is like to be triggered. I just had one a few days ago and while I didn't understand at first why I was so emotional, my body had stored the memory deep within and it surfaced on that particular date. Even after 3 years of recovery work. While the trigger was not debilitating, my body was letting me know I still had some work to do in that area of healing work. 
We are diving into a 2 part series of TRIGGERS:
What they are
Why we have them
Types of triggers
How to recognize them
How to heal through them
I even share my own trigger experience and how I worked through it.
Join me and learn ALL THINGS TRIGGERS so you can heal through yours as well.
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We are back for part 2 of our 7 Stages of Grief in Betrayal Trauma.
If you haven't listened to Part 1, listen here:  E74
Today, we finish the final 4 stages. 
If your husband has had an affair and you are grieving what use to be, today's episode is for you.
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Are you experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions since you found out about your husband's affair?
Are you sad one minute, only to be raging in anger the next?
Do you find yourself obsessing over where he is, looking at his social media accounts, email, and phone records multiple times a day?
Beautiful, you are probably in the many stages of GRIEF. When we've been betrayed, we suffer pain, devastation, loss, and grief. 
But how do we know it's grief?
What stage of grief are you in?
And how do you NOT get stuck in grief?
Today is Part 1 of a 2 part series on the 7 Stages of Grief in Betrayal Trauma.
I'm going to answer all of those questions and more.
I pray this blesses and helps you!
XO, Lisa
 
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TRANSPARENCY
A word many today believe is not necessary in marriage. I keep hearing how many are advising couples that it is perfectly normal and OK to keep little secrets from each other. That it's actually healthy. 
Wait....WHAT???
When did it become OK to keep secrets from one another in marriage?
When did it become OK to keep things hidden from each other?  
This actually sets your relationship up for disaster. It creates a wall between the two of you, especially if you have suffered from betrayal. 
If you are seeking to reconcile and truly recover after an affair, you MUST be fully transparent with one another. This is especially true for the betraying spouse. Remember, the affair was hidden, it was a secret, there was deception, and it was a tremendous blow to your relationship.
In order to fully recover from betrayal, trust and transparency are ESSENTIAL. They are foundational in any Godly marriage.
God designed marriage. He designed it to make you become one, which means there are absolutely NO secrets between you.
Take a listen to the 7 reasons why transparency is crucial in your marriage, ESPECIALLY after infidelity.
I hope you listen to this one WITH your spouse. Take notes and talk it through after. I pray it will help move you forward in your healing journey from betrayal.
It's time to see marriages truly heal by being truthful and transparent with one another.
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Healing the whole woman is key to full recovery from betrayal trauma.
This is considered a Holistic approach to betrayal trauma recovery.
Holistic healing addresses all three (mind, body, and spirit) in various ways that are natural and noninvasive.
Jesus healed. He healed the whole person - mind, body and spirit. And if He addressed all three, so should we.
Today we are going to explore how healing the mind, body, and spirit sets the whole woman up for a successful recovery from betrayal trauma. 
We know there are many techniques for healing the mind and body:
Brain spotting
CBT - cognitive behavior therapy
Somatics
NLP - neurolinguistic programing
But what about the spirit of the woman? How do we address the nagging thoughts that still torment even after much mind healing work has taken place?
Or, what do you do about the overwhelming anger that is causing your body to be sick even after much body trauma release has been done?
How do you address the things that go way beyond what we can humanly do in trauma work?
We are diving deep into it today.  
I pray this blesses you and equips you to set into your authority as a Child of God, a true Warrior in the Kingdom of God.
XO, Lisa
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Part 2:  ALL THINGS BOUNDARIES
Boundaries are necessary for a healthy life and healthy relationships. But what types of boundaries do we set?  How do we set them?
We are back for Part 2 of this series and today we are diving deep into the 7 Types of Boundaries to set after betrayal and how to set them.
Grab your pen and paper Beautiful. After today's episode, you will want to go back and work through each boundary category so you can begin to feel safe again and step into a healthier life after betrayal.
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We are talking all things BOUNDARIES.  
What are boundaries?
Why do you need them?
This is so important to know ESPECIALLY when you have suffered the devastation of an affair. His betrayal can leave you in a state of chaos. Not know which way to turn or what to do. 
One of the very first things is establishing safety and setting foundation boundaries for yourself. 
We are going to explore all about boundaries over the next 2 episodes. Today is part 1. Part 2 will be released on Friday, March 10, 2023. Make sure to listen to today's episode to learn the foundations of boundaries. 
You can feel safe again, Beautiful. It begins here.
XO ~ Lisa
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Hey Beautiful!
We are back for Part 2 of Intrusive Thoughts. If you haven't listened to Part 1, go there now:
E68: Intrusive Thoughts - Part 1
We are continuing in the deep dive of how you can take control of the intrusive thoughts so they don't control you. And YES, you can control them, have them submit to you, and FINALLY overcome them so you can move forward in your healing journey from betrayal trauma.
I hope you use the strategies in this 2 part series to take back your thought process and stop obsessing over his affair. 
You can do this! I believe in you!
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Intrusive Thoughts - What are they? Why am I having them? And how can I take control over them so they no longer control me?
Beautiful, I hear you loud and clear. 
I was asking myself the exact same questions when I was in the midst of betrayal trauma. 
The intrusive thoughts flooded me like a tsunami. They controlled me throughout the day and disrupted my sleep at night. Denying them only led me to a 4 day hospital stay. I don't want you to be controlled by them anylonger.
In today's episode, we will explore what Intrusive Thoughts are, why you have them, and how to stop them from controlling you.
Learning how to move through and process intrusive thoughts is crucial to surviving infidelity.
They can keep you stuck personally and keep your relationship from moving forward in reconciliation.
The emotional flooding you experience because of the trauma from his affair can devastate you.
It’s important for you - the betrayed to know how to heal from it
But, if you are working on reconciling your relationship - it’s vitally important for the betrayer to know how to help you when you are emotionally flooding.
Grab a pen and paper so you can take notes on this one.
I pray is helps and blesses you Beautiful!
PS ~ This is part 1 of a 2 part series. There was just so much I wanted to share with you. :) 
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Gaslighting is a HUGE therapeutic buzzword going around the interwebs. If you are suffering from betrayal trauma, I'm sure you have heard the term. 
But what is it exactly?
How does it affect you?
What are the signs?
And what can you do to stop it?
Today, I want to break it all down for you in this episode. 
Grab a pen and paper Beautiful and get ready to be educated and empowered. It's time to put a stop to gaslighting and start finding your voice again.
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We are finishing up our Mini Series on "What I learned from being betrayed. The Real journey of healing from betrayal trauma.
In today's episode, we journey hard and fast through the last few "core" things I learned from being betrayed:
Needs
Trust
"Fixing"
Being loved
Loyalty
"Enough"
Ultimate healing
Grab a pen and paper for this one. It's filled with lots of nuggets.  
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We are continuing this little mini series of what I have learned from being betrayed. I know we wish we would NEVER have had to go through something so horrific, but there is something to be learned from it. We can come out on the other side of recovery so much better than when our healing journey first began.
Let's dive in Beautiful!
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